DIVORCE -------> AGE

REASONS FOR DIVORCE IN MODERN INDIA

Gone are the days marriages are fixed in one among the heavens above our heads which is the abode of the invincible invisible, the god – our Lord!

Of late, classrooms in high schools and colleges and lawns of university campuses are such abode for marriages in India.

Of all the countries, marriages are breaking up as frequently as the passenger cars of upcountry trains plying in the Red Belt Regions of Eastern India leaving families like those mangled heap of passenger compartments turned turtle for politicians to prey on reasons to accuse one another for electoral reasons. Whereas, in breaking up of marriages, families vaingloriously up-stem each others’ commitments to a thousand years bond in India their great grandparents held values of lives thru marriage.

But, like the Indian monsoon playing hide and seek with those people in the hinterlands, Indian weddings took the seasonal aspects to last just for a couple of months and then vanish in the blue like those nuptial shots in films – I mean Indian movies!

Come now to the reasons; the movie industry in any language is the mea culpa of the first order for divorces multiplying in thousands per month in India. In the themes of teen-age love, movies are made to outnumber the locusts expected of the swarm of them from one among the Ten Commandments. The most tender of all feeling that human beings can ever taste both physically and mentally and psychologically thru the affairs of love is maligned and mangled in different vulgar manner in movies made in Bollywood, Kollywood and Tollywood with songs and their filming sequences focused on sex arousing gyrations with tunes pitching to ecstatic levels literally driving the youngsters to attain an orgasm devoid of any partner from the opposite sex.

The Indian tradition demands an age difference of a maximum of 5 years between the boy and girl getting entangled in wedlock. This is not the norm now with marriages. The minds of girls and boys join in lust for carnal desires in classrooms in the schools and colleges they study and as graduation ends with their lives as students, they meet discreetly to nurture their love to end up in marriage. Good. But, remember, how they address each other even as they want to be man and wife? The force of habit with which the same age group lovers address one another by their names is carried ahead into their family life even after marriage. The reverence and respect expected of a wife towards her husband in addressing him is no more. To such a wife, her husband is still her classmate to call him by his name to the chagrin of the boy’s relatives, parents, brothers and sisters.

Calling the husband by name is no crime or wrong in Western cultures. For, they use a common word, “You” in 2nd person singular to call or address their father, mothers, their dogs, and their children and their gods. That is not the case with the cultures in the East. Elders are differentiated from animals with words of salutation and addressing. A wife is expected to treat her husband as an elder always in her married life to keep her bonded with his love, respect and care. The binding of marriage in the Eastern cultures starts from here even as the couples as ‘newly wedded’ leave a Church, Temple, Pagoda or a Mosque.

The moment a newly wedded wife is equated to the level of her husband’s heights in family and social strata, he is deemed hen-pecked. The hen in such a wife expects her rooster to lay eggs and in his inability, she starts searching for such rooster who “can lay eggs”. The search is the prelude to the imminent divorce to take place as the hen starts pecking more and bolder with force taking advantage of the law of the land lending her in its own weakness that all women are tender, soft and defenseless.

I mean to say that equality in age between couples getting married is the root cause for divorce in India. Do you agree to my views?